It is easy to become depressed, jaded and frustrated during an extended job search. Your mind can quickly become your biggest enemy when you only focus on the negative. Here are 6 examples on how to respond to your negative statements with positive answers.

Example #1:

“You’re probably more qualified than most of the senior leadership at the company; but you’re still not qualified. You’re capable of anything yet qualified for nothing.”

Do not let yourself doubt your abilities. Remember that it is your job to explain your value to the employer. Take the time to do your homework and they will see your value and what you can do for them.

Example #2:

“The only people that use LinkedIn are employers and job seekers. Employers are too busy to get back to you.” “Don’t bother trying to reach out to people on LinkedIn unless they’re a recruiter because they don’t have any job openings” or “Why reach out to a recruiter when they do not check their account that often.”

LinkedIn is a great tool but just because someone has a profile does not mean they are active. Look to see when was the last time they posted or shared something. If it has been a few weeks or months, then they may not use LinkedIn that much. Target those that are active to maximize your return on investment and give them a reason to talk to you. Do more than just send a default setting request or leading off by asking them for something in your first interaction.

Example #3:

“Career fairs are just an opportunity to learn where to send your resume.”

To maintain your sanity during a job search, you also need to check your expectations. Although it is possible to go to a job fair and walk away with a job, it is highly unlikely to happen. Use job fairs and other career focused events as an opportunity to network with people in that organization. Take the time to research which organizations will be in attendance and identify the positions you may be interested in. With the information you have gathered, your interactions with the representatives will be that much more rewarding. Exchange business cards and begin the process of developing a professional relationship with the employers you meet. Although having a decision maker from the company as an ally is ideal situation, having an HR person on your side can be just as effective getting your resume to the decision maker.

Example #4:

“Networking is just someone you meet introducing you to more people. None of whom are hiring; at least not you”

Networking effectiveness and attitude tends to go hand in hand. If you go in thinking this next person I talk to will give me not just a job but my ideal great paying job, I am afraid you are setting yourself up for failure. Networking is about relationship building. It gives you the opportunity to show others what you are capable of and your character. Once the relationship is there, the potential for securing a position comes to play. A big part of securing work through networking comes with knowing what you are looking to do. That way you can target the communities to spend your energies in, explain your value better and help others know how they can help you more effectively.

Example #5:

“You’re not qualified for managerial positions”


“You’re over qualified for entry-level.”

If you focus on the needs of the employer and not mentioned unnecessary tasks or accomplishments then you will not be seen as overqualified. Having a Masters degree is great but if the employer did not ask for it then mentioning that will only be a liability.

Example #6:

(this one can be both for veterans or a person who is transition careers)

“No one wants to hire a veteran at a level that’s equivalent to their position in the military because they couldn’t possibly understand the product/system/industry.”

Understand that you as a job seeker are not entitled anything from an employer. They are tasked with finding the best candidate for their organization. In turn you need to be able to explain how your service / or previous career makes you their ideal candidate by showing them that you understand their product/system/industry.

After all is said and done we must fight a negative mindset to secure a positive future.

Written by 

Santiago Leon- CPRW, Workforce Professional Business Services Manager at Able-Disabled Advocacy